Saturday, April 10, 2010
Gotta Work on The Comment Feature...
I was made aware that the comment feature here is not working properly. Please be patient while I work through this. In the mean time, if you are on Face Book, you can communicate with me on there. Thanks for your patience.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
What would you like to see covered?
Thank you to all who have read my blog, and sent me messages. I enjoyed reading your thoughts. I'd like to answer your questions, if you have any. Feel free to put questions in the comment section of the blog. I will do my best to answer them thoughtfully.
One reader is concerned about the toll that the music industry is taking on some of her friends' lives. I know that it can have a negative affect on family life, the travel, the absence of the muscisian at key family times like graduations, school events, etc. I know there are people out there who are making the best of it though. It's the same for truck drivers, or people who are traveling salesmen. It's all about the quality of the time you are able to spend together. Don't get me wrong, any relationship that is not given adequate time will eventually suffer. The other side to that is, there are ministers, and evangelists that have to travel to spread the gospel. Surely God didn't call them to ministry at the expense of their families.
We had to get pretty creative in how we handled family time. I would travel, as much as I could, with my husband. Also, I had a part-time job, working for his company, so that I could balance my time with the kids' schedules. There are a lot of creative things that you can do to accomodate a travel schedule. It will take sacrifice though. It won't always fit into this comfortable box. You have to think outside the box to make it work. When both people are willing to make sacrifices, it can work. My marriage lasted seventeen years. You might be thinking, "How is she the expert on making this work when her marriage ended in divorce?". You are right, I am no expert, but seventeen years speaks loudly in this day and time.
What I would do differently the next time is, I'd spend less time working on the day-to-day business things and more time on relationship things. I also spent time decorating my house, and entertaining guests. I was the hospitality committee, when band members came to town. I didn't necessarily accompany them to the studio sessions, or the working dinners, but I was the behind the scenes "go to" person when it came to making things run smoothly. I would do things more selfishly, in a good way, if I had a chance to do it all over. There is nothing wrong with delegating resposibility. The Proverbs 31 woman knew how to get things done. She had servants! There are only twenty four hours in a day. You can't be all things to all people. I actually thought that things wouldn't get done if I didn't do them. Strangely, once I was divorced, life went on, and the company didn't crash. So, that showed me that things would get done, one way or another, if I chose to do what was more important for the well being of my family.
Also, I'd pay more attention to the obstacles to a stable family life. There were distractions, to say the least. Most people think that a lack of money is the main problem in the life of a starving artist. Actually, the abundance of money, without a long-term plan of how it will be spent is a bigger one. Ask questions, before you marry a musician, about how they value money, what is important to them. If a big house, multiple cars, and a supersized home studio is his priority, you should know that in advance. If you are frugal, and value other things you might not agree on how the money should be spent.
Well, my brain is getting fried, lol. Enough wisdom for one day.
One reader is concerned about the toll that the music industry is taking on some of her friends' lives. I know that it can have a negative affect on family life, the travel, the absence of the muscisian at key family times like graduations, school events, etc. I know there are people out there who are making the best of it though. It's the same for truck drivers, or people who are traveling salesmen. It's all about the quality of the time you are able to spend together. Don't get me wrong, any relationship that is not given adequate time will eventually suffer. The other side to that is, there are ministers, and evangelists that have to travel to spread the gospel. Surely God didn't call them to ministry at the expense of their families.
We had to get pretty creative in how we handled family time. I would travel, as much as I could, with my husband. Also, I had a part-time job, working for his company, so that I could balance my time with the kids' schedules. There are a lot of creative things that you can do to accomodate a travel schedule. It will take sacrifice though. It won't always fit into this comfortable box. You have to think outside the box to make it work. When both people are willing to make sacrifices, it can work. My marriage lasted seventeen years. You might be thinking, "How is she the expert on making this work when her marriage ended in divorce?". You are right, I am no expert, but seventeen years speaks loudly in this day and time.
What I would do differently the next time is, I'd spend less time working on the day-to-day business things and more time on relationship things. I also spent time decorating my house, and entertaining guests. I was the hospitality committee, when band members came to town. I didn't necessarily accompany them to the studio sessions, or the working dinners, but I was the behind the scenes "go to" person when it came to making things run smoothly. I would do things more selfishly, in a good way, if I had a chance to do it all over. There is nothing wrong with delegating resposibility. The Proverbs 31 woman knew how to get things done. She had servants! There are only twenty four hours in a day. You can't be all things to all people. I actually thought that things wouldn't get done if I didn't do them. Strangely, once I was divorced, life went on, and the company didn't crash. So, that showed me that things would get done, one way or another, if I chose to do what was more important for the well being of my family.
Also, I'd pay more attention to the obstacles to a stable family life. There were distractions, to say the least. Most people think that a lack of money is the main problem in the life of a starving artist. Actually, the abundance of money, without a long-term plan of how it will be spent is a bigger one. Ask questions, before you marry a musician, about how they value money, what is important to them. If a big house, multiple cars, and a supersized home studio is his priority, you should know that in advance. If you are frugal, and value other things you might not agree on how the money should be spent.
Well, my brain is getting fried, lol. Enough wisdom for one day.
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